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Thank you for taking the time to click over here and read my blog. I'm going to do my best to make it worth your time, so feel free to leave feedback and tell me how I can do better!
So, for those who don't know me, my name is Daniel Singer.
I'm an actor living in Los Angeles, California.
My life until recently has been a chaotic mess. I'm more comfortable in the chaos now that I've gotten rid of the "mess",
and if I'm being honest, I've really grown to enjoy the chaos.
Now, it's not even chaotic.
But, I had let the last two years get a little out of control, and instead of trying to do any sort of self care or disaster management, my stupid ass decided to pour jet fuel on the raging dumpster fire that was my life.
I'll share some of those stories in later posts, but really the point of my blog is to share what I learned with everyone, and hopefully help others going through the same things or something similar to what I did.
If you're looking to be successful in life, then you need to learn balance.
Everything in life is a balance. Very rarely is something ever black and white.
Balance can be seen as walking the line between chaos and order.
Magic is the transformation of chaos into order.
It's sometimes referred to as Yin and Yang...anyway, I'm sure you've heard of the concept~
It's important to understand that you need both. Life can't exist without darkness, and darkness can't exist without light. Life is meaningless without death, you can't have death without life. It's a wonderful simplicity that skyrockets down a very deep rabbit-hole, but the cliff notes version is that both are essential.
They aren't good or bad, better or worse, they just are.
When you understand that, and start playing the game, then you can start learning how to make the rules work for you. The best thing about rules, is that they exist to be broken. But you have to know the parameters like the back of your hand, so you know when and how to break them. (This is balance)
I always struggled with following arbitrary rules. This got me into a lot of trouble when I was younger and especially when I was living in Japan. I hated having to listening to "subject matter experts" who, after hearing them speak, I could tell didn't have a firm grasp of the concept they were talking about, or especially, if I could do it better than them.
My communication skills weren't great though, and so I would ultimately make waves, piss everyone off, and then, after having shot myself in the foot would be left alone because no one would put up with me.
Didn't matter how right I was...
After constantly letting things smash me in the face, I decided that maybe it was time to learn how to not "let things smash me in the face".
I started moving within my "set parameters", and almost immediately the game was too easy.
If you want to start making real improvements in your life, you need to start thinking for yourself.
You absolutely MUST give yourself permission to do and be.
Stop listening to what other people are saying, because normally, what you're listening to is mediocrity (if you're lucky). When you give yourself permission to be alone, or think for yourself, you are able to vet the information that you hear in your day to day. You'll quickly realize most of it is bullshit, and will be able to find the people who are knowledgeable in their field.
Make these people your mentors. But make sure you're learning how to be your own mentor too!
Everything in life needs to be constantly challenged, made better, and then changed again.
This part is chaos.
When you discover something meaningful, that creates more efficiency for your task and/or goal, you incorporate it into your system.
This part is order.
Take responsibility for your personal education and the direction your life is going.
Doing this removes the "limited factors" in your life. This means if you want to do something, anything, you know how to give yourself the tools and confidence to make it happen.
Once you're able to comfortably engaging in both chaos and order, you've essentially gained the skills to master life. Then you just enjoy the ride, bending through the chaos and order as you please. Creating the best experiences you can for yourself, and the people around you.
I personally recommend keeping one foot in chaos and the other in order, sometimes you need to go all in from time to time.
But I've found that staying rooted in both keeps me engaged in my thoughts and actions, and I reevaluate every Sunday.
It's insanely difficult to walk this line, but so rewarding when you do it.
Don't worry about screwing up or falling on your face. Instead, treasure those moments!
You get nothing from success aside from a variety of dopamine releases. (which are nice too!)
But "failures" are the lessons that give you invaluable wisdom and funny stories to tell.
Learn the rules, learn how to have fun with the rules, and help others learn how to do the same.
We're not getting out of life alive, so might as well have fun while we're here, and leave the world a place better than when we found it.
Thank you for reading!
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If you have questions, please let me know! I'm always looking to improve how I can communicate things better for everyone!